Self Regulation.
Do you know what controls your magnetic field?
Your emotions… your ENERGY IN MOTION
your WIDE OPEN protected heart ❤️
Do you want to live abundantly?
Don’t be reactive. 🗣
You already are enough.
If you’re reactive,
you give your power away.
Self regulate to co regulate.
Feel the energy.
Be Calm
be deeply within,
no reactive superficial drama
no reactive crisis to crisis
no reactive cruel callous chaos!
You lower your heart frequency
which in turn makes you attract
More hardships
more chaos
more drama
into your material reality.
Keep your energy in motion
Your emotions in check,
This does not mean to remain silent
It simply means to regulate your own energy consciously
not react.
Consciousness
Once aware of who you really are
Self regulation becomes your true nature.
Already one whole content
Consciousness
Regulated to share equally with another
Healed regulated whole
energetic being.
Surrender only to your true
self and if both have done this inner work
Of consciousness
Then co regulation is easy.
There are no more triggers
Because each self regulates
the true self first (immediately)
And can retain connection through
Co regulation immediately
This whole consciousness
Is simply one full energy in motion
Fully felt
connected to your own responsiveness
Not reactivity.
Consciousness is
The ONE whole love language
On which all else rests,
So simply realise
Enough is enough
Feel fully feel and reveal
Don’t try and block or manipulate or suppress
what energy is current
Be connected to your own energy
and consciously feel, consciously regulate and consciously Share what needs to be shared
Without projecting
Without blame
Without anger
Non violent communication
Is simple regulation of your own felt energy
Is simple self awareness
Is simple self love self worth self knowledge.
So simply
live moment to moment
This one whole energetic reality
in front of you now.
To Be here now is the fully felt
Consciousness
Of you.
Live as enough is enough right now
Is abundantly.
Clear!
It’s that simple.
Self awareness is self regulation
Is self discipline Is self worth is self love.
No one else is responsible for your energy in motion.
To own your energy one must first feel the energy in motion. And regulate the energy.
Not by pass
Not suppress
Not avoid
Not dump unprocessed pain or hurt or unkind fractious energy on anyone else.
Be response able. Feel it fully.
Be account able. Self regulate.
Without masks or charades or white lies
or putting up harsh unreceptive
emotional walls
Attached to thinking that walls
are boundaries.
Self regulate first in the moment
immediately if not sooner
Then share your
Own emotional regulation with another to
Then co regulate.
First comes your own consciousness
Connected heart to heart not mind attached
Lighten up
Why so serious?
Once we dismiss
Once we drop
Once we discard
all that we
are not!
Welcome home to grounded
True nature
Your own
unwavering
Unchanging
True natured whole
Consciousness!
When any inspirational leader shows
"I am the way',
The leader does not mean for people to follow them in an unconscious unquestioning context.
They mean,
'Be the way that I am,
because you already are that way.' I follow you as you follow me. We each listen & learn. To our true self first and then to another one.
The idea is for all of you to understand that this is what the so-called Second Coming truly is:
THE consciousness WITHIN each and every one of us is your own consciousness,
your own Buddha nature, connected to your own soul fully and also connected to your own wide open yet protected heart spirit.
If you do not yet feel and know your own energy, your own consciousness, know your own true nature, your emotions and relationships will remain at best detached and at worst in constant chaos.
If you cant then also self-regulate your emotions,
your relationships will be chaos.
If you cant co-regulate with your partner,
your inner world will be chaos.
Healthy relationships require learning both skills,
not just relying on one.
Co-regulation requires a certain degree of Self-regulation. If you are not able to work through the more intense feelings around frustration, anger and resentment before turning to your partner, you may not experience co-regulation, and instead you will simply trigger each other - the opposite of co-regulation.
Also, co-regulation is not about using "I feel" statements to cover over the resentment or anger underneath the words. It starts with working with what you're feeling in a way that leads to constructive, collaborative and emotionally safe dialogue.
Talking about what's happening inside you - in a way that feels emotionally safe to the other person.
This is the importance and power of effective self-regulation.
Co-regulation then becomes easeful, which also contributes to deeper self-regulation, and a positive ripple effect is formed in the relationship with the foundation of emotional safety for everyone involved. This is the beginning of deeper, more soulful and nourishing forms of intimacy.
When it comes to relationships between Men & Women, I've seen people telling women that a "real" man will be able to "hold space" for a woman regardless of how she speaks to him. This is just leading women into a fantasy version of relationships. Men respond to Women, just as Women respond to Men. If he brings his unprocessed anger to you, that impacts you. If you bring criticism and blame to him, that impacts him. It's not because he's not a 'real man', it's because he's not a robot.
It's time to let go of those wounded teachings around relationships, and discover the art of true intimacy.
Everyone, no matter gender, benefits from learning more effective forms of self-regulation, co-regulation and a more collaborative style of communication that supports both."
~ Serdar Hararovich
