It Is All Ok. Listen, Receive, Include and Accept NOT Agree or Absorb.

It seems counterintuitive, 

but the way to truly be helpful to someone in pain or denial or projection, 

is to let them have their pain. 

Let them feel the pain fully. 

Let them feel the pain safely. 

Let them feel and wonder???

Let them sit WITH uncertainty, not MIND attached. 

Let them share their current reality of how much a choice has hurt, 

how challenging this current decision is,

how hard this current cause and current effect REALLY is, 

Let them feel whatever IT is they are currently feeling. 

Let them descend into feeling any CURRENT 

self inflicted drama and crisis and chaos and pain, 

without jumping in to clean it up, 

without jumping in to offer advice, 

to avoid it

to diminish it 

to deny it

to make it smaller, 

or make it go away.

The wisest kindest support you may offer is to simply be The Witness. 

You are not here to fix or heal or explain. 

Simply Hear and Witness them compassionately

in whatever somatic reality they are currently attached to, 

their family of origin conditioning, 

their lack of awareness of cause and effect, 

their limiting lived experiences and myopic perspectives, 

their pain, their grief, their joy, their non violent non harmful anger, their silliness, 

their attached THINKING they know, 

their many moods and magic and mad house mighty mystery, 

Simply witness and receive their current fully felt truth BUT

DO NOT ABSORD THEIR ENERGY

Simply Let Them Be.