Joy Fully Focused.
“When we meet with someone who is feeling melancholic, empty, restless, or down, we can quickly become convinced that something is wrong, and that our role is to act urgently to fix them. And to engage in techniques, theories, and ideas to help them replace the actuality of their experience with what we believe they should be having instead.
It’s totally natural to want relief for those we care about and we want to do whatever we can to help; we don’t need to pretend this isn’t the case. We can hold that larger intention that they feel better, while simultaneously staying open to a call emerging in the field between us into deeper territory.
Perhaps it is something more subtle, more nuanced, more beautiful than relief that they are most longing for. For the Friend, for a companion who will go with them into the dimly lit, endarkened landscape of the soul.
From an alchemical perspective, there is wisdom and guidance in the images, emotions, and somatic data arising into the relational field between you, vital communication from the soul serving an initiatory function beyond what we can perceive. We don’t want to short-circuit that, especially as a result of our own anxiety and discomfort.
If we slow down and reflect, we might discover how much of our “fixing” activity, the movement toward relief, arises not from true compassion but from an unresolved relationship with our own darkness, with our own historic core vulnerabilities and untended complexes, and from the spinning and twirling of the ghosts of our own unlived lives.
It is possible that the most skillful and kind thing we can offer our friend is to sit in the charged energy with them, bearing witness to pure feeling together, in that claustrophobic or restless space, and stay near; to remove the burden that they come out of their experience, “feel better,” or heal in order for us to stay close.
Perhaps they don’t need to be healed, but to be held, to be heard, and to feel felt and understood, for someone to companion them as the hidden wisdom unfolds. Where, together, we weave a safe home, a sanctuary, a wholeness-temple where the shards of a broken world can reassemble.”
By Matt Licata
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Eyes open
ears maybe more so
Simple observation of a
A hearing witness,
Pay Attention
Simple , Safe, silent,
a subtle held space.
Self first;
Finely nuanced
Fiercely tender
A space of receptive
grounded grace.
Compassion, kindness, care
Simple see?
Inclusive warm and real,
Share as we all
Kindly commune
In community
Consistently show up
As the flowing reality
In deed, word and intent.
Self care, self love, self knowledge
You always come first,
Pretty easy
once we realise
Once we value
Once we be
The Sovereign Unwavering
common core,
Of ….?
Of One ever so simple better question,
Who Am I?
Self knowledge?
Atma vidya?
One Whole one total
One creature in creation
This is the most
Simple,
You already are,
Yes!
Really?
