Yung Pueblo
"With proximity comes the possibility for connection. If we are in close contact with someone there is the potential for an intuitive alignment to flourish. After spending a bit of time with people, we can tell who we want to spend more time with and who are simply momentarily crossing paths with.
As the connection between people deepens, the volition within each individual grows stronger to treat the other well, we go from initially being strangers to becoming known supporters of each other’s happiness – the depth of our connection gives birth to the voluntary commitments that support harmony in any relationship.
Even within families and friendships, the bond we experience is built on connection. Connection is based in the mind’s innate ability to love. The mind also contains a strong drive to crave, which ends up conditioning our perceptions of what we encounter and our reactions to what we feel.
Craving itself gives birth to attachments. This dense form of clinging to what we crave not only causes much mental struggle, tension and dissatisfaction but it also clouds our ability to objectively observe what is happening within us and around us.
The deep connections that we feel toward our loved ones are often wrapped and mixed in with attachments. Not because we wish to make things difficult, but because the mind has a strong tendency to crave and control. Attachments cloud the true love that deep connections emanate. Attachments create much friction in relationships because they stand in the way of individual freedom.
There is nothing wrong with wanting certain things in a relationship, but we have to be clear to not force others to do things the way we see fit, instead we should build strong pathways of honest and calm communication so that both people can feel clearly understood – it is through this mutually shared understanding that new voluntary commitments can arise from each individual to better support the harmony of the relationship.
Attachments are an attempt at control that are marked by deep inner tension; voluntary commitments are an attempt at supporting happiness and harmony that are marked by the willingness to love." 🙏🏽🌎 #yungpueblo
