Parenting Age Appropriate, Of Course. Yours and Theirs...

Invest Time. 

Be There. Support & Listen. 

Let Them Fail Forward. 

Let Them Own Their Choices. 

Be There. 

Invest Time. 

Let Them Be Bored and Struggle. 

Let Them Take Responsibility, 

Let Them Feel Accountable, 

Do not create entitled, disrespectful, wounded humans. 

Invest Time. Listen. 

Really Listen to Any Unmet Need Behind The (sometimes challenging) Behavior Choices. 

Yours and Theirs. 

Be There. 

Let Them Figure Tough Stuff Out As They Grow Into Their True Self. 

Be There. 

Hold Onto Your Kids, 

Gift Them Their Own Inner Safe Place as Your Co-Regulating Presence. 

Be There. 

Mentor, Model and Set Boundaries. 

Self First. Listen. 

Children Reflect All That Is Still Unresolved In The Unlived Life of a Parent. 

Still, Calm, Reflect, 

Re Parent and Parent, Be There, unconditionally. 

Be There 

Even when it is hard To Stay Open and Continue To Love Choices of Behavior. 

Yours or theirs. 

Be There, assertive and accountable and direct and simple. 

Let Them See How You Deal with Your Flaws. 

No Parent is Perfect... how boring... how inhumane... 

Never Yell (until you do...) 

Be There. Invest Time. Invest Time. Invest Time. 

Be The Kind of Love You Want Them To Be. 

Children Absorb who you are at your fundamental core, NOT what you say. 

Children have NEVER been very good at Listening. 

But they are always watching and somatically absorbing your priorities and choices.

Especially how you cope under pressure. 

And How The Grown Ass Adult Relates in Relationships. 

Be There. Listen. Be interested and interesting. 

Have Fun. Be Joyful. 

Patient Parent first, Control Your Own Behavior, Choose Your Responses, wisely, discerningly. 

You Are NOT there to be their best friend. Their job is to test you. Give them The Best Job. 

Be There. Invest Time. Know Them, Learn Their Nuances. Learn Their Patterns. 

Don't sweat The Little Stuff. 

Set A Standard of Grace, Not Perfection. 

Morals and Ethics and Core Values matter most. Be There. Show Up. Mentor and Model. 

Children become WHO and WHAT parents are. 

Not what your tell them. 

Set the tone, lead, you are The Adult whether you believe it or not. 

Be There. Time and Presence not money and presents. 

Observe and Stay silent on all that does NOT really matter. 

Let discerning Selective deafness Be Your Allie. 

Let Children Be and Grow and Fail Forward

But DO NOT enable any harmful or disrespectful or entitled arrogant choices to continue. 

You are The Adult who mentors and models. 

Be There. Be Present. Be Calm. Be Real and Raw. 

Always realize and remember why you chose To Create Them In The First Place.

From Love NOT For Love.

Be That.