Trusted Truth Has No Path
"High Functioning Empath" or "Highly Sensitive" is often medical model code for lack of boundaries. In other words, you have learned to absorb, put up with and tolerate more than you should.
I used to think being resilient meant I could endure more and allow things to get bad before walking away.
I used to think being able to heal quickly and forgive easily meant I should give people more chances to come back.
I used to think compassion meant sacrificing my needs.
The way insecure people are triggered by your inner peace is very telling as those who are not used to calm and peace, often grew up in highly competitive or chaotic families where survival and winning was a predominant energy.
An alignment you may now be looking for is called emotional alchemy.
The reality is you may meet someone who would be highly compatible once they leveled up to their more evolved version of self. But they will still choose to pursue someone who is more of a match to their lower self instead of doing the work to level up. Don’t take this personally. Let them be. Simply re validate and re affirm your ability to see peoples soul pilot light and inner spark. But equally validate and affirm your ability to see the current reality and truth of how someone is behaving, acting and showing up in the present moment. Your power lies in your ability to do both.
A really important skill is to be able to gracefully pull your energy back when you see someone is not showing up fully, this will be counter intuitive for natural givers.
Step back, separate your energy, never in a cold punishing way, but simply to come home to yourself. I’m so thankful that one of the earliest things I learned was how to cleanse, restore and keep my heart open after something hurtful happens.
When you know how to let go of the things that hurt you and not allow your heart to get hardened, you sleep so much more peacefully at night. One important thing I learned many years ago was to stop assuming people should just know better. Growth takes conscious effort and personal response ability and some people simply are NOT equipped at the same moment you are or even capable of holding that clear clean mirror up to their own consciousness.
Some deny family of origin wounds or even simple and common unconscious conditioning and are yet to begin the inner child reparenting journey. Of course not everyone has the same priorities, values or feelings about what is appropriate or acceptable and the deeper you heal towards your own true nature of wholeness, the clearer these discrepancies become.
As your own inner calm space expands, you create more space to see, hear, hold and believe a wider range of other's lived experiences. You are able to share your re integrated inner spacious consciousness by attentive listening and discerning actions as you become both stronger and more subtle in hearing where people are up to on their own ego re integration journey.
People can only meet you as deeply as they have met themselves.
Not establishing clear boundaries of what is and isn't acceptable for your self in a relationship early on invites a lack of respect. Being sensitive and spiritually attuned i have found there are things that other people will tolerate or accept that I absolutely will not.
So I understand I have to be clear and transparent up front about who I am and what my standards (NOT expectations) are for intimate relationships. Know who you are, know what you don't want, know what you deserve and do not settle for less.
