DTW - DAY 4

By PABATAI 時間 Tony Searl

Learning to trust and let love in when we grew up feeling unprotected or unsafe is hard work.
It’s completely normal to be guarded or self-protecting when we’ve been hurt or betrayed in the past - without the ability to self-protect we wouldn’t have evolved to where we are today. But that same instinct to self-protect is the instinct that can keep us at arms length from true intimacy and connection.

If we project the people who hurt us in the past onto the people who want to love us in the present, we are cutting ourselves off from the healing that can occur when we re-write our stories about how love and relationship can be. Trusting love is always a risk. Showing our hearts is always a risk. Letting love in is always a risk. And as with anything in life, all of this is impermanent. No matter what, everything ends. Sometimes love can stare us right in the face and all we can see is our past. When we’re wounded, extensions of love can feel suffocating, attempts to connect can feel like control, nothing feels safe.

But the solution is not to avoid relationship all together, to set rigid boundaries that prevent intimacy, or to test a person until the straw breaks. The answer lies in your own healing. And your healing happens in relationship - to yourself, to your heart and mind, to how you respond when your mind conjures up the old story and when you feel your heart going under lockdown.

And to the ones right in front of you, extending their love and asking you to see them clearly. We don’t escape our pain by avoiding it, we heal it by sitting in the fire and being with the intensity that arises as we relearn what it means to let love in. And you deserve to know what it means to co-create mutual trust, admiration, respect and companionship.

The practice is in letting love lead.

Kindness IS all. Let Love Lead. 
I lead by following. I lead by listening, I lead as presence. 
This is THE simple life dance
I will not be controlled. By you, by life, by the past
I listen to lead; sensual, subtle, nuanced. 
Agile, Ready to shift, change, choose a different route.
I know my self, grounded, whole. I trust you do too.
Planning To Be Spontaneous. Create The Space To Be That. 
Spontaneous Plans. Hold The Grace To Be That. 
Yeah lets do that right now. Joy, Fun, Learn, Laughter, Adventure, Rest. 
I am One unique sovereign Being. As you are too. 
Allowance of The Liminal Becoming. 
Allowance and trust In The Process. 
Allowance and knowledge of The True Grounded Self. 
Kindness, care, compassion, self first then share and commune in community. 
There is NO topic not able to be clearly communicated. 
No taboo, no shame, no guilt. 
Be Ok with Being Ok with whatever your choices lead to. 
I Got My Own Back.
It is awesome to know you choose to Be here to. 
Not to save, not to rescue, not to tell sell or yell. Just To Be.
Presence. Kindness. Presence. Kindness. Simple cycles, rest rise repeat.
It is all ok. When we choose that priority.
Pebble, Pond, Ripple, Simple.
Pay The GREAT shift forward, completely unattached. 
Acceptance is NOT agreeance, completely connected, remain unattached. 
I accept that different perspectives and ways of being obviously exist. 
I still choose NOT to agree to those 
that insult my soul, or harm my heart or violate my core values or steal my peace. 
Chaos and Drama and small minded gossip can leave now, please. 
Boundaries Boundaries Boundaries. Do Not Leave Home Without Them.
Agree To Disagree. No sweat, no worries, no resentment, no revenge, there is space for it all. 
Kindness IS all. 
Rule number One? Don't be an asshole. Pretty, Simple, Really. 
Don't Be a victim. Face Your Own Music. 
Choose a different way forward, stop whining, stop finger pointing and blaming others.
Choose Responsibility, Choose Accountability. Drop The Entitlement. 
Life happens FOR me, not to me.
From Love, not for love. 
One choice. Then the next choice, stitch those minute moments of choice together for flow. 
One foot in front of the other ... run forest ruuuuuun! 
Then the next even more discerning, aware and subtle conscious choice. 
Repeat. Often. All Ways. 
More Joy, less stress. Choose. 
Happiness has NO reason. 
No choice to Be The Consciousness. 
You already ARE that. Simply by being born. Everything else is NOT the real you. 
Try to be unconscious? 
Go on, you may try hard to check out with drama or drugs or negativity
Try hard to be stressed and try hard to get somewhere and try hard success? 
But you can never be higher than your Self... impossible. 
You already are whole and complete, you may just Be Hiding. Your True Nature. 
Checking out of reality with stress and by pass and drugs and complaining and being a victim.  
Flip The Story, stop finger pointing, stop whining, stop hiding, stop being stuck on labels. 
I am not your source of happiness, that is 100% YOUR responsibility
I will support your non harmful, to self or others, choices of happiness.
I will remain autonomously sovereign, fully present in relationship and connected in community. 
I refuse to be emasculated. 
I am not a puppy being lead on any tight leash or dog collar. 
Liberation is Knowing Your True Self. Before The Terms & Conditions were imposed. 
I know and Love and accept my true self. Yes even the messy and dark stuff. 
I choose to grieve unashamed because it matters. 
Life ends, love never does. Relating ends, love never does, If love was even ever real. It matters. 
Heart Opening growth, not closed little boxes, because it once mattered. Love always matters. 
A heart breaks to open to more. Death leaves us all in the end. Love never dies. 
Heart Break is an open growth. It should hurt, that beauty filled pain tells you it matters. 
Do not be an unfeeling stuck up arrogant asshole. Feel life, let it matter, let it in. 
Be full spectrum, laugh, cry, dance, sing, silent, quiet, be real and be you. AUTHENTICALLY YOU. 
Boundaries are soft warm beaches, not harsh prison walls. They matter. 
Boundaries protect your energy and inner peace. They matter. 
Boundaries show people where The Door Is. They, The Door and The People, matter. 
Yes you may bask on my beach of warm boundaries, 
but not everyone gets an invite to dance in my jungle. 
Same same with My Deeper Ocean. 
Come bask on my beach, but only swim deep if invited and you can handle it. 
And please, Don't come to merely tread water, merely to survive, but rather full body thrive. 
Lets go get fully wet then. Not just merely moist. Dive in, embrace The Full Serve Salty Azure. 
Be 
Calm, be empowered, share silence in feeling NO lack, that is real vibrational intimacy
Do not get sex and love conflated. One exists without the other. 
But BOTH together for no reason is where the Magic Happens

So let go of all the walls and barriers and bullshit that stop the flow. 
Like voids of deficits, 
Like control freaks "my way or the highway" 
Like the drugs and alcohol of by pass addictive excessive people pleasing 
Like Perpetual Chaos and Gossip or Drama, Please Leave. Now. 
Like Do Not Tell Me How To Be. 

Love has NO reason.
Be direct, candor is Kind. 
I will walk away if it costs me my peace. 
Receptive response able, actions
Evolutionary Love Relationships. 
No enabling, no enmeshment, no lane merging, no people pleasing, no perfectionism. 
One plus one equals three. 
You + me = US
Joined by choice and sovereign by nature.
Independent Beings and coupled by freedom. 
Singularly autonomous and mutually supportive
You are One, whole sovereign Being
I am One, whole sovereign Being. 
Those Ones (no separation) come together as creatures in creation. 
We add, we join, we team, we co-create and that creates us. 
No attachments, no draining, no dominance or dereliction. 
Simple not convoluted, kind not right, flowing sensual not uptight unreceptive.
graciously direct candor not passive resentful silence
This, these all Are a Choice. 
Moment to Moment. In The Now, Please, Show Up. 
The practice is in surrender to your whole Self. Not another. 
The practice is in listening and therefore being both aware and receptive
The practice is in letting love lead.
What would love choose?
What would love Be, right now? 
Kind, not right. 
From LOVE not for love. 

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